Can I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back By Playing It Cool?

Welcome to Get My Ex Boyfriend Back 101. My goal is to provide you with the best help possible when it comes to getting back together with your former boyfriend and to heal your broken heart.

About three years ago, my boyfriend at that time decided that we were too young to continue our relationship. He told me that he thought it would be best if we broke up and started living our lives on our own. I was totally shocked and devastated and I kept asking him why he wanted to break up…everything was going so well. He told me that he simply needed more space on his own and that he felt that our relationship was keeping him from doing a lot of the things that he would like to be doing with his life.

I just had to accept his decision despite that horrible stabbing feeling in my stomach. I was totally crushed, but I made up my mind right then and there, I was going to find out how to get my ex boyfriend back one way or another, but I had absolutely no clue how.

A lot of thoughts ran through my mind in the days and weeks that followed. Was he actually right about us being too young to continue our lives together, or was the main reason that he wanted to be able to spend more time with his friends…to hang out with the boys? I had this extremely strong urge to talk to him, to hear his voice and to let him know exactly how I felt, so I started calling him frequently on the phone, sending him text messages and I constantly checked his Facebook status just to be “near” him again.

Acting this way actually made me feel even worse, because it constantly reminded me that he was no longer spending his time with me. A close friend of mine told me to stop chasing him like this since it would most probably drive him even further away from me. At first, I refused to listen to her and I told her that she did not feel the way I felt, so how could she possible give me any advice without really understanding my situation? However, she kept reminding me that my actions were getting me nowhere and eventually I saw that I desperately needed a new game plan.

If there is one thing I can tell you when it comes to getting back together with your ex, you must stop being as desperate as I was. Once I finally stopped contacting him, chasing him and tracking all of his activities and whereabouts, he actually called med up to tell me that I had some of my things at his place and if I could come and get them. I played it cool because I knew that my new plan was starting to work for me.

The more distance I kept and the less I tried to contact him or talk to him, the more he seemed to get in touch with me, just as if he has realized that he actually missed me and wanted me to be part of his life again. What simply had happened was that I had given him the space that he was in need of, and this space had actually provided him with enough time to realize that he missed being with me.

That’s what it is all about. Giving your ex boyfriend enough space, and keep away from chasing after him will give him the time he is in need of in order to prove to himself what you actually mean to him. So, if you are asking yourself “how to get my ex boyfriend back?” be sure to keep your cool no matter the pain you feel, give him a chance to take a “time out” to sort his mind out, and give yourself some time, too. This way, it will work itself out for you.

 


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